Using one of the tactics included in the wheel does not make one an abuser; however, it does show that there are problems in the relationship. If multiple tactics are being used, or if the behavior shows an ongoing pattern, there is deep cause for concern. If these tactics are used for the purpose of maintaining power and control over the partner, this would represent domestic violence.  Remember, domestic violence includes a much broader range of behaviors than physical abuse.

If you, or someone you love, is a victim of domestic violence, or if you fear they may be, please contact us or contact one of the many resources available.